Many of you that follow me on social media might be wondering what exactly my 30 days of Exceptional Adulting is all about. Why am I doing it? What do I hope to get out of it? What’s next after the 30 days are over?
Let me explain.
I’ve been busy writing my book “The Exceptional Adult” for a few months now. The deeper I get into this book, the more I believe in what it teaches. The Exceptional Adult Hierarchy of Habits will dramatically improve the lives of any who build the habits it outlines.
If you are familiar with my firs two mega-posts on The Exceptional Adult Hierarchy of Habits, you will remember that they talk about the first level: the foundation, and the second level: security and expansion.
There is a third and final level to The Exceptional Adult Hierarchy of Habits — Self-awareness. I’ve written two unpublished blog posts about this third level.
Curiosity struck me hard two weeks ago. What would happen if I did every habit every day? How would my mood, weight, body fat change? Or how much could I learn, and how many book pages could I read? Most importantly, how much would I learn about myself; how much more self-aware could I become?
These were questions I needed to answer, and these unanswered questions were the main reason I have yet to publish the two self-awareness blog posts.
I wanted to try an experiment. For 30 days I would do all of the habits in The Exceptional Adult Hierarchy of habits, plus a few new habits I’ve wanted to instill in myself, such as that annoying daily writing habit.
Let’s create a plan
To implement this 30 Days of Exceptional Adulting, I decided to start on December 1st, and use social media to announce this to my friends and family. More on why social media was so important a bit later.
Every morning I would stick to a routine, outlined below to one-by-one, knock out the exceptional adult habits.
This is the morning routine I came up with:
|Task||Start by||Complete by|
|Wake Up||9:00pm||4:00 am|
|Bathroom, Weigh myself, Make Bed, head downstairs||4:00 am||4:05 am|
|Start Coffee, Stretch, Do 30 pushups||4:05 am||4:15 am|
|Pour Coffee, Meditate||4:15 am||4:30 am|
|Gratitude Journal & Goal Setting||4:30 am||4:45 am|
|Review Writing Notes, Free write||4:45 am||5:00 am|
|Write, write, write||5:00 am||6:00 am|
|Drive to Gym + Audiobook||6:00 am||6:15 am|
|Exercise + Audiobook||6:15 am||7:00 am|
|Shower + Go to work + Start Crockpot if needed||7:15 am||8:00 am|
The timing is arbitrary, but I intend to start every day at 4:00 am. If for some reason, I fail to wake up at that time, then I will just start my routine as soon as I wake up. And if for any reason, I wake up too late to go through the morning routine, I must then find time throughout the day to complete the following habits.
- Eat Healthy
- Sleep 7 hours a night
- Read at least 20 pages
- Take 1 hour of an online course
So now I have a plan. Follow the routine, knock out the habits, and learn as much as I can about myself.
Will I stick to the Plan?
Sticking to something like this is extremely hard. I am self-aware enough not to delude myself into thinking I can adopt seven new daily habits all at once. I will need contingency plans, accountability, and a continuous motivation.
To force myself stick to my guns, I announced the challenge to social media, creating an air of responsibility, and backing myself into a corner with no escape routes. I will do what I say I will do. In December I am committed to live the Exceptional Adulting lifestyle.
I also recruited my girlfriend to help me out, because let’s be honest here if I don’t have her sign off, none of this will happen. Who wants their partner waking up and getting out of bed at 4:00 am every day? Not many of us, but lucky for me, she has given me complete support. The result of this has been fantastic, as both she and her daughter have helped me out in ways I had not expected. Such as by exercising with me late in the evening when I was with them in Houston.
I also am recording my progress every day in a simple spreadsheet. This gives me a sense of daily accomplishment, as well as a progress bar to complete. Numerous psychological studies have shown that when building new habits, tracking progress vastly increases the likelihood of the habit sticking.
Surrounding myself with support has honestly been the one main reason I have been able to pull this off. Keep the habits simple, hold yourself accountable, build a network of support, and get to work has been the mantra of the month so far.
Give back by sharing my results each week
Like I said in the previous section, to hold myself accountable, I have decided to track my progress each day, recording a small journal entry, as well the excel spreadsheet of daily stats I complete each day.
This data enables to me to give back, to share the knowledge with everyone, so that maybe one or two of you will learn just enough to get you to adopt an Exceptional Adult habit into your life.
Look for a “Week 1” Update from me later today if I haven’t published it on my website already.
If it is up, the link to it will be at the bottom of this post.
Why am I doing this?
To prove to myself that I can, to learn why I haven’t been able to build out these habits in the past and to further understand how my brain ticks. Self-awareness, the third tier of Exceptional Adulting.
I started studying self-improvement and personal development three and a half years ago because I had a problem with taking action and being consistent. Not only did I have bad habits, but I also had self-destructive habits. My self-awareness was zero; my empathy level was zero. When someone does not experience empathy, they are almost always an asshole, because they cannot put themselves in the shoes of the people they are conversing with.
My self-improvement journey has taught me how to rewire my brain, replacing the destructive habits with constructive habits, teaching me a ton about myself in the process. The self-awareness and empathy that has come from this have been nothing short of life changing. It has not been enough, though.
I have been trying to create a daily writing practice for four years.
Until a year ago, the gym was a place I avoided at all costs because I didn’t know how to use the weights properly, nor did I know how to create a workout.
Meditation is a practice that I know has been scientifically proven through numerous studies to have massive improvements to both mental and physical health, and yet I could not sit my ass down regularly to cement a daily meditation habit.
I am doing this 30 Days of Exceptional Adulting because I am on a journey to grow and become the best version of myself, to share what I learn with others that want the most out of life, and to get the most out of life myself.
That is why I am doing this.
What is the next step?
Okay great, so you want to be self-aware, healthy, wealthy, and wise. Good for you. What’s next after the 30 days are over?
These 30 days of Exceptional Adulting is just the beginning.
After proving to myself that I can do all of these habits every day, I hope to continue the streak.
At the end of these 30 days, I expect to have done the following:
- written over 30,000 words
- read several thousand pages
- dropped several percentage points of body fat,
- and taken dozens of hours of course material.
It will be an accomplishment I will want to surpass in January.
I have goals to turn this blog into something more than just a website with a few thousand visitors each month.
I have goals to write books.
The next step will be to take what I learn from this month and use it to finish off my first book, then use the habits I have formed to create a blog that adds extreme value to my readers and to write more books of course.
Stick around if you want to see how it all unfolds.
Weekly Recap – How The Experiment Is Going Each Week
- Week One Recap
- Week Two Recap
- Week Three Recap (Coming December 22nd)
- Week Four Recap (Coming December 29th)
- 30 Day Recap (Coming January 1st)
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